The Silent Confidence Killer
How Seeking Attention Can Destroy Your Self-Esteem
In the age of social media, where likes, shares, and comments seem to hold the weight of gold, it’s easy to fall into the trap of seeking attention as a measure of self-worth. We post, we share, we curate our lives, all in the hopes of getting that little hit of validation — a virtual pat on the back that tells us we’re doing something right, that we matter, that we’re seen. But what if I told you that this constant chase for attention is doing more harm than good? That, far from building your confidence, it’s slowly, insidiously destroying it?
The need for attention is a deeply human one. We all want to be acknowledged, appreciated, and valued. But in the pursuit of external validation, we often forget where true confidence comes from. Confidence isn’t something you find in the opinions or approval of others — it’s something you build from within. And the more you rely on attention from the outside world to feel good about yourself, the more fragile your confidence becomes.
Let’s start with the basics: attention is fleeting. One moment, you’re in the spotlight, basking in the glow of likes and compliments, and the next, the world has moved on to the next shiny thing. When your sense of self-worth is tied to something as temporary and fickle as attention…