Is Your Love Life a Competition?
Why It’s Time to Tear Up the Scorecard
Once upon a not-so-rosy time, I found myself in the midst of a relationship that felt more like a never-ending game of Monopoly than a warm, snuggly blanket of love. Picture this: every conversation turned into a competitive sport, where keeping score wasn’t just a habit; it was the game. But let’s be honest — this wasn’t the fun kind of competition, like racing to see who could eat the most hot dogs without declaring digestive bankruptcy. Oh no, this was the kind where you keep a mental tally of who did what for whom and how often as if love could be measured in favors like some emotional stock exchange.
Here’s a revelation that hit me like a ton of bricks dressed in feathers: viewing relationships as power struggles or competitions is about as valuable as trying to use a sieve to carry water. It’s a slow, leaky process that gets you nowhere fast and leaves you wondering why you’re all wet and not even a step closer to where you want to be. Every “win” in this scenario is actually a loss because what you’re winning at is pushing each other away, not pulling closer. And let’s face it, if you’re keeping score, you’re not playing to win together; you’re playing not to lose, alone.
The turning point came for me when I asked myself, “Is all this scorekeeping making us happier?”…
